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Here you will find an ongoing 'Interview'-style question & answer
mostly for personal inquiries about me and my life/world/fun
but also questions of an 'expertise' nature.
Feel free to submit all questions anonymously and I'll get to it ASAP.
How many inquiries a day do you get?
How do you approach selecting people?
Most days somewhere in the arena of 300 emails, messages etc reach me.
Of these maybe 100 are people I've never heard from. Of these perhaps
half are serious inquiries. Of those half are...inappropriate. Of the half
that are appropriate, half seem awesome to me! Of that 15 or so I choose
1-4 who seem sweet, kind, fun and potential long-term kinship. I do this
for fun not money so it's important that I actually LIKE someone and
WANT to be physical with them. I would never ever see someone I felt
no attraction to or who didn't excite me.
I will (logically) opt to see someone who prepays over someone who
does not, someone without facial hair over someone who does,
someone who is excited by the same things that excite me.
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Are you thinking of retiring?
Yes. I don't consider what I do
work at all but this past year
COVID took so much fun out of
it that it'll be JULY before I can
make a reasonable assessment
as to whether or not it's time to
find some other adventure. I
am an author, DJ, painter,
traveler/adventurer so I have a
rich life, but I'd still need some-
thing erotic to gratify that
element of my life/psyche/ID.
HAVE YOU TURNED PEOPLE
AWAY AT THE DOOR?
6 TIMES altogether. If someone
shows up and I even SUSPECT
they are drunk, high, sick, weird,
dangerous, lying, dirty etc...I
politely end the session before it
even begins. This is SOP for me.
I don't take risks...this is supposed
to be FUN!
STILL NOT CLEAR ON YOUR
'POLY' STATUS. Explain plz?
I had a husband until this past
FEBRUARY at which point he
passed away from a brain tumor.
I have 2 wives (3 others by asso-
ciation), 3 GFs, a BF and of course
I'm free to date or marry anyone
else I like. In a POLY scenario
everyone is aware of and happy
with everyone else's EVERYONE
ELSE. So one of my wives has
4 other wives, several BFs and
was 'married' to my dearly-
departed simultaneously to me.
Spouses, BFs/GFs, significant
others etc come and go, some-
times live together for days weeks
or months before switching
homes/fellow S.O.'s. There are
no secrets, no cheating, no lies.
Everyone has several major
relationships with people who
have the same. Everyone gives
and gets what they need...but
no longer from a SINGLE person.
Which is insane, cruel and im-
possible. It requires maturity.
WHY HAVEN'T YOU HAD A
MMF 3SOME YET?
So many have asked about this
I better get around to it now.
I know it might seem strange to
some people who don't know
me that given all the sex I've had
I would have done this by now.
Nope. It's not that I haven't had
thousands of opportunities, it's
just that when hubby was alive
we agreed we wanted it to be as
exciting and perfect as possible.
This requires finding the right 2
males. They need to be comfy
with one another, and they need
to be...predictable. Safe. When
men get together in various
circumstances they can be the
sweetest people in the world until
there are other males there to...
create a mob-mentality. Suddenly
Mr SweetiePie is turning into a
rowdy, aggressive, high-fiving
scumbag who...god-knows! what
they are capable of. This factor
needs to be reduced. When this
happens I'll be thrilled to have my
first experience.
WHAT'S YOUR BIGGEST
TURN-ON?
The area of this site that was
originally designed for and
addressed my turn-ons has gone
the way of the DODO along with
other elements so I can update
my answers because life changes.
People change. Evolve. As there
is money involved I don't make
a chief goal of mine getting off
myself. So 99% of playmates
don't care what my turn-ons are
-- especially because they don't
relate to them individually.
So if you want...anyone who
goes to the trouble of asking
me on KIK before hand and then
sticks to their plan and succeeds
gets a 100% FREEBIE! I'm saying
this because so far no one has.
No one has really even tried.
WHY DON'T YOU WATCH
THE CLOCK LIKE OTHERS DO?
I DO THIS FOR FUN not money.
It's never been about money.
All my VIPs have not been charged
a dime in 3 years (because they
respect me enough to ensure I'm
not left empty-handed and I give
them the respect of trusting them.
When everyone is given and
gives respect, we all win!
Money isn't a discussion issue.
Obviously I do pay attention to it
somewhat but yes mostly I don't
watch it unless I have a really
tight schedule.
WHERE IS THE VIP area?
Offsite. 4 years ago I moved it to
the same place PIRATEBAY has
stowed itself in the past. It is
accessible to those playmates
who see me regularly enough,
show interest in me and my life
as a whole, chat me on KIK and
have similar sexual enthusiasm.
WHO DO YOU BLOCK/NOT
EVEN CONSIDER?
A potential playmate can expect
a non-reply, a polite brush-off
or a permanent block when he
does any number of things.
The list seems endless!
People who put me in a red-
light guarded state start their
interaction with me with
"Available?" or "Services
please..." or saying something
crude/vulgar. Non-coopera-
tion to protocols, hagglers,
pic-hunters. Men specifically
need to understand that it's
obvious when someone's not
really serious. Years of exper!
WHY DON'T YOU USE A
PSEUDO OR HIDE YOUR FACE?
As I've said many times, I love
what I do and actually think it's
something to BRAG about! I think
what I do is awesome and there's
absolutely no shame at all --
quite the contrary! No one in my
life is kept in the dark about
my sexuality or any other part of
my life. When I was 19 I made a
decision that anyone who would
have issue with my sexuality was
no longer welcome in my life.
Friends, family...everyone.
I became immediately liberated
and have lived free of any/all
'hiding' ever since. I'm having
a fantastic time without anyone
to look at me sideways.
WHY ARE YOUR PRICES SO LOW?
Again, the money is tertiary
at best. This is supposed to be fun!
I'm not a party girl. I watch 70s
saturday cartoons, LEAVE IT TO
BEAVER before bed, don't smoke,
drink, do drugs, no tattoos etc.
I'm not really 'the type' at all!
So as long as playmates are
sweet, considerate, respectful
and we have FUN, the numbers
themselves aren't so important.
I'm very well-off so I can be
choosey, based on my mood,
time of day, day of the week,
do I have other people hanging
out with me, weather. I can be
capricious. With so much other
living/responsibilities/adven-
tures...sometimes I just set it
aside for days, even weeks.
HOW CAN I MAKE SURE YOU
THINK I'M AWESOME?
Take the time to really read my
site, be fun, funny and -- most
importantly -- find out what
drives ME CRAZY and have fun
with it yourself. A great review
is always good and yes, showing
up with a gift card etc demon-
strates you understand I've
already 1) cut my rates...3 times!
2) Am absorbing or paying for
things gentlemen USED to
pay for (so much for gallantry),
3) You're getting someone who
actually ENJOYS herself rather
faking it/putting on a show.
The best start is taking time to
sit at your desktop/laptop/IPAD
(not phone) and really find out
who I am.
WHAT'S UP WITH THE
RACIAL LIMITATIONS
It's not racism specifically.
I simply have had more than
50% of my playmates belong to
INDIAN, MIDDLE-EASTERN and
other brown ethnicities. I still
see people who are not white
but I am limiting, otherwise all
my playmates will be...not white.
It's just a selection strategy.
At least half my current play-
mates are not white.
WHAT'S YOUR POLICY ON
SEEING COUPLES?
Unfortunately, when seeing more
than one person at a time --
regardless of who they are or
may be (good or bad) you're
still talking about two people, not
one. So yes while women are
100% free of any charges, couples
have a specific protocol I use:
I see both separately first
(whether we have fun or not)
and then the couple together.
It's not always agreeable but there
are obvious reasons.
WHO IS SCARLET CARSON
She is my 'alter-ego' designed
for safe-distance fun and for
extra perks/play for those who
have earned such privileges.
I did have another ALTER
I called TRIX but I wrapped
that up in November and
won't be doing it again.
HOW HONEST CAN I BE ABOUT
MY SEXUAL TASTES?
100% I've heard and seen it
all and there's nothing more
annoying than a potential
playmate who beats around
the bush...it's important to
not panic about disclosing
your twists no matter how
depraved others might see
them...I'm better than a priest
that way...don't hold back!
WHAT'S A CAMJAM?
Under typical circumstance I
turn on a cam or two or three
like so many do, only in my case
it's to allow welcomed playmates
to watch myself and others just
hang-out, watch a movie, listen
to music, chat about life, ask
questions and, yes, have some
sexy fun for those watching to
enjoy. This can be KIK video,
FACETIME or other video that
allows for this sort of socializing.
I've done this in my GTA and
L.A. homes, while on vacation
in hotels and out gallivanting
around valleys, mountains,
beaches, bridges and every
where else my life takes me!
CAMJAMS are fun, usually last
1-3 hours and so far have
always gone superbly!
How long does it take me to finish my daily WHIMS.
I'll post the reply in the Q/A area as well but it seemed logical
to put it here. So here ya go! I spend about 30-40 mins a day posting my BLOG
but all the components, ideas, the continuity of images, metaphors, music,
constituents themselves etc...I don't do it home anywhere near a computer.
Walking, riding, sailing in the summer and so on...I get inspirations and then...
10 mins here, 15 mins there...I revisit them and consider all the choreography
needed to compile, compose and correlate, so that by the time I sit down to
get it done...I've got a pretty dazzling symphony of this-n-that all planned.
In total about 2 hrs goes into it, just broken up into pieces that cohere...
I hope...quite well! Having a dozen HDs full of photos/video from my travels
and adventures doesn't hurt; but it's not always easy to find things!
I do as much as 2/3 of the posting itself outdoors on my IPAD PRO using
ANYDESK which also allows me to DJ 2 radio stations from the boat or
beach or taxi if I so choose. I have some eye issues so I can't be sitting at
a desk looking at a screen very long. I was taught how to do all this and now
feel like I'm really pulling it together and cumming into my own.
Hope that answers your question!
WHAT ARE YOUR A-LIST
PLAYMATES PAYING?
Since I do this for fun and
not money, I have what
doctors call a 'sliding scale'.
It's important that people
get what they need. Those
with the $3000-$5000/hr
to spend, do so without
qualms, while people who
do not have that sort of
budget can pay as $99/hh
Celebs have no ethical
issue with this equation.
WHAT DEFINES
'A REGULAR'
TWICE/MONTH for two
months min. At this point
a playmate qualifies for
contests etc...
WHAT's YOUR CANCEL-
LATION POLICY?
Unfortunately, 'hobbyists'
are NOTORIOUS for this
bad habit and taking not
only their own time flip-
pantly, but also others'.
As most people know, un-
like other girls, this is not
'my job/career'. For me it
is FUN and something I
get a great deal of plea-
sure from doing. Anything
and everything that dimin-
ishes that FUN is, for me,
unacceptable. I'm not in
a position of needing to
accept such problems.
If someone treats me
badly, I simply wish them
well and move on, no loss
to me whatsoever. I have
an insanely busy life if I
so choose to dive into my
various BUSY-MAKING
friends, novel-writing,
painting, hiking, sailing,
DJing 2 radio stations
and so much else!
If someone cancels...it's
done. The end. I simply
do not see them again.
If they're a first-timer...
oh hell yes...DONE.
If I've seen them 10 times
or more without any late-
ness or cancellations, I
will likely let it slide.
BUT EVERY CANCELLA-
TION must be rectified by
the playmate compensa-
ting for the lost hour.
If the playmate is NOT
in this 10-times standing
ANY and ALL chance of
getting into my good
graces requires:
1) Compensation for the
hour
2) Compensation for the
hour before AND the
hour after as the cancel-
lation likely means anyone
who wanted one of those
hours DID NOT get it
because of the time
allotted to the one who
cancelled.
3) A sincere apology that
includes recognition of
exactly what was done
(as most DO NOT really
understand how rude and
disrespectful it is).
4) PRE-PAID time for the
first following 3 sessions
It should be understood
that the real cost of the
cancellation is the cost to
my faith in my fellow man
and that is PRICELESS.
I'm a happy, hopeful per-
son and I'd like to preserve
that innocence. People who
do not value that shouldn't
be seeing me anyhow...
they should find someone
jaded, cynical and morose
like themselves!
(see right for follow-up) ==>
HOW DID YOU BECOME
A P.A. to begin with??
I've told this so many time
now...it's like someone
asking you how you broke
your leg...by the 100th per-
son you're ready to squeal!
This will be my final time.
When I was in college,
Daniel was lecturing at my
school and I was one of
many who were dazzled
and hung around in a
cluster waiting for a chance
to talk more directly with
him. I gave him my email
and, after emailing, we
chatted directly and hit it
off. I was anxious to flee
pre-med and live a real
life. In the span of two
months I had been moved
to Florida where I was
living in Britney's condo,
then flown to CALI where,
again, put up in a celeb's
'away' home. Then I was
flown to HAWAII where
Daniel arrived from CHINA
& Taiwan where he was....
well...not important...I be-
came a P.A. and 'nanny'
overnight to justify my VISA
and from there...life & love
ensued. Since then, I've
sung on dozens of songs
you've heard, helped mix
music on the board, taken
the helm of the INDIE
record label (now dissolved
due to his death) and...of
course...became............
entangled (deliciously) in
the lives of numerous
celebs via that first chat.
Who could have ever pre-
dicted!? WOW! Seems a
whole other lifetime ago!
"HOW CAN I RE-
ESTBLISH MY STATUS
BEFORE ANY POSSIBLE
NEW COVID WAVE?"
I warned everyone in
NOVEMBER of 2020 as I
started the SCARLET
CARSON ROSE Project
that if/when an escalated
new wave of COVID hit
I would be getting the
"LOVE BOAT" trimmed &
'ship shape', closing hatches
and preparing for a bit of
a TEMPTEST. Many ignored
this and popped back up on
the radar expecting to be
accommodated but were
turned away. As we approach
FALL/WINTER 2021/2022 it
is CRITICAL THAT YOU
CONTACT ME & SEE
ME before the trouble
starts! Those who pop back
up after not seeing me for
months/weeks will be
turned away (politely) not as
a punishment but as a
precaution. With hundreds
of cases of COVID popping
up in those WHO HAVE BEEN
FULLY VACCINATED it is
now clear vaccination is not
a solution, just a stemming of
the tide. Contact me! See me
now before the next possible
storm hits! You have been
warned!........again! Do not
make the same mistake...
again!
I'M NOT SURE I'M UNDER-
STANDING WHO THESE
NAMES/PEOPLE ARE
YOU REFER TOO ALL
OVER YOUR BLOG...?
It's always a challenge for
people to digest the POLY
life and to process all the
names/references...esp
since JAN when I removed
30% of the site to start
fresh and am still dealing
with that. REGAN & BRIT
are my two wives. 'D.'
(or Daniel) was my hubby
for 10+ years and died
FEB 12, 2020, RIEL is a
current boyfriend (I'm
open to other dating
once COVID is kaput),
Riel has another GF and
she, in turn has another
BF. Regan has a BF and
another GF. Brit has 3
wives, a BF and a
"beard". They, in turn,
have their own secon-
dary and tertiary signif-
icant others (or S.O.s).
I'd love to get married
again to a cool man but
most men don't do well
with sharing! These
people (as well as other
names/friends/lovers)
do come up frequently
so you'll now have some
idea if they do!
RE: CANCELLATIONS --
WHAT IF I HAVE A VALID
REASON FOR CANCELLING??
Shrug. Meh. I may be
innocent but that doesn't
mean I'm not aware that
8/10 cancellations are
LYING about their reason
hoping that somehow my
sweetness will reply, "Oh!
that's terrible! Well by all
means you have to
be with your dying friend/
redo your homework after
your dog ate it/get well/
fix your wrecked car..."
Shrug. Meh. True or not...
people have been incon-
venienced. We all must
take responsibility for our
actions and all events --
even those beyond our
control have consequen-
ces. Other people should
not need to pay for your
bad decisions or just
FATE/CAPRICE picking
on you. You're not being
punished, I just have to
protect myself & others
If there's a second
cancellation...there's
no reprieve for anyone
no matter who they are.
WHAT's GHOSTING?
Possibly, the worst thing
playmate can do without
being in the house.
If someone contacts me
and then VANISHES with-
out so much as a lame
excuse...DONE, DONE
and DONE. It actually
amazes me how many
MEN in particular do
this...and then POP back
up later like nothing ever
happened. The AUDA-
CITY -- the temerity!
WOW!
WHAT's THE WORST
THING SOMEONE CAN
DO IN YOUR HOUSE?
Humans are...infinitely
capable of everything you
can imagine. Good man-
ners have deteriorated
for decades now and
it's impossible to list or
weight the possibilities.
Rule #1 in my home is...
JUST DON'T BE PRE-
SUMPTUOUS about
your rights/freedoms.
Treat my home like I
would treat yours or
any others' home...
As though you are a
guest in a 10-year
sanctuary/sanctum
where life/love has
built a sense of safety
and haven. Pretend it's
your grandmothers
home and you're 9yo.
You'll be fine!
"I LOVE THAT BRITNEY HAS
STARTING USING THE ROSE
THING OF YOURS AS HER
'PROJECT' TOO...What can
I do to support it?"
I've been getting a great deal
of mail since SEPT 3 & even
more after Britney's SEPT 5th
post of the SCARLET CARSON
ROSE between her naked
breasts to mark the beginning
of her own SCARLET ROSE
CARSON Project many of
you have enjoyed for the last
year. I appreciate your
emails of support & have
passed everything on that's
in good taste. You may contact
me for help contacting her
directly. Any & all inspiration
for her will help. Since D.'s
death she has set in motion
numerous elements that
have now coalesced and
promise true freedom for
her financially and with
choices she wishes to make
in her life. It has taken much
time and effort behind the
veil you've seen...for those
who have known me for
years now...this is all no
NEWS to you...for those who
refused to hear me on the
matter when they had the
opportunity...tsk tsk!
Thanks again to all who
embraced the SCARLET ROSE
CARSON Project long before
Britney adopted it!
You have my respect and
affection! XOXOXO!
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